Creating a Vision for the Life I Want
So I wrote part 1 and part 2 and then I froze, procrastinated and was unsure of what I wanted to do for Part 3. I knew it was going to be about the futureโฆbut I could not make the decision of what was going to be the future.
Part 1 was about the beginning when we first had Type 1 Diabetes come into our lives.
Part 2 was about the present (a few months ago) and this one is about the future.
There was a time when I was just trying to make it through the day. I didnโt have space or energy to think about a bigger pictureโI was reacting, surviving, and doing what needed to be done.
But over time, I realized I didnโt want to just โsurviveโ anymore. I wanted to create a life that felt aligned with who I am now. Not the version of me from 10 years ago. Not the nurse who worked full time. Not the mom trying to hold everything together at the cost of herself. Not the mom that felt so much guilt and so much anxiety over trying to manage diabetes for her kids.
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Creating My Vision: What That Really Means
When I say โvision,โ What do I mean?
A clear sense of what truly matters, and how I want to feel while Iโm living it.
- I want to feel peace, not panic.
- I want presence with my kids, not perfection in their numbers.
- I want connection with my husband, not separation
- I want to support other moms, without burning myself out.
- I want movement, growth, and restโin balance.
- I want to live aligned with who I am today, not just who I used to be
- I want freedom to have flexibility in my work and not burn myself out.
To help me stay grounded, Iโve started thinking in terms of a simple map. Not rules. Not checklists. Just guideposts.
Hereโs what mine looks like right now:
How I want to feel every day:
Calm. Energized. Happy. Connected. Confident
How I want to show up as a mom:
Present over perfect. A safe space. A role model for self care and to help them with their own struggles of growing up and becoming independent.
How I want to show up as a wife:
I want to be intentional with affection, appreciation, and not letting stress overwhelm us.
How I want to impact others:
By helping others dealing with either diabetes or mental health struggles feel seen, supported, and empowered.
Tools That Help Me Stay Aligned
- Daily Movement โ Iโve been consistent with my workouts using the Bodi platform, and that structure helps anchor my days. When I move my body I feel less anxiety.
- Mindful Nutrition โ Iโm actively working through my challenges. I am a stress eater and have struggled with just wanting to โeat it allโ – especially sweets. Itโs a process, and Iโm being gentle with myself while also staying committed.
- Quiet Mornings โ I try to journal every day, even just a few minutes. Iโve found that being the first one up in the house gives me the quiet space I need to breathe, reflect, and start the day with intention. That time has become something I truly value.
- Routine & Self-Care โ Iโm focusing on building a routine that supports me physically, mentally, and spirituallyโnot just in survival mode, but in real, sustainable care.
- Supportive Community โ Surrounding myself with people who get it has been huge. Other T1D moms who understand the emotional weight of this journey, and other moms in business who are walking their own path of growth and purpose. I donโt feel alone in itโand thatโs everything.
- Supplement Helpโ One of the ways I will be supportingย my mental clarity and mood is by being intentional with remembering my daily supplements. Iโve re-added Happy Juice to my daily routineโWorking on the health of my nervous system to not be as reactive and to feel calmer. ย Itโs not a fix-all, but itโs one more way I can support my body and brain as I navigate the daily stressors of life, motherhood, and diabetes care. Find the details for HAPPY JUICE HERE
A Vision for the Future That may Evolve (And thatsโ OK!)
One important thing Iโve learned: my vision can changeโand thatโs a good thing.
I no longer judge myself for outgrowing things I once wanted. Like when I thought the diabetes clinic job was my dream, only to realize it wasnโt the right fit. That wasnโt failureโit was information. It was redirection. It was part of the rewrite. Vision isnโt a one-time thingโitโs something you revisit and reshape as life changes, as you change. We can change our minds!
Right now, Iโm working as a nurse in transition services. Itโs a temporary role, and when that ends, Iโll go casual unless there is another part time position that comes up.. Thatโs what works for me in this season. Iโve come to fully accept that full-time nursing doesnโt fit the version of life I want or need todayโand I no longer feel guilty about that.
With working part time I can create space for other things that interest me with out feeling burnt out.
And two things keep pulling at my heart:
- Helping others navigate life with diabetes, especially parents of kids with T1D who are overwhelmed and feeling alone.
- Supporting those struggling with their mental health, because Iโve been thereโand I know how much of a difference it makes to feel seen and supported. I also know that for adults living with diabetes this is a lacking resource in the health system depending where you are.
I have been a nurse for 25 years now and it is a part of who I am. I want to be able to integrate my own lived experiences to help others. The things that have happened to me have shaped my identity, my passion, and my purpose. Last year I completed my holistic nurse coaching and consulting certificate. Holistic nurse coaching is about supporting the whole personโnot just physical health, but also your mindset, emotions, and everyday stress. I see myself doing this sometime in the future…but not sure when.
My goal is to help people find practical ways to feel better, cope with burnout, and create routines that actually work in real life. Itโs not about fixing youโitโs about walking with you, helping you feel more balanced, and giving you space to focus on what really matters. At the moment I need to still work on my own mental wellness and make sure I am filling my cup and not burning out.
Years ago, I was involved with a mental wellness company that helped people work on their mental wellness, nervous system and had products that focused on the gut/brain axis. If their are others feeling the way I did several years ago they need to know there is hope to feeling better. I had been at my rock bottom before joining the company and it helped give me tools to fight back!
So no, I donโt have it all figured out. But Iโm okay with that. Because I know what matters to me. I know the kind of impact I want to have. And I trust that by listening to that, Iโm rewriting my story in the most meaningful way possible. Even if it means I may pivot again in the future!
A Simple Vision Exercise (For You reading this!)
If youโre reading this and feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, try this:
Vision Check-In Prompt:
Grab a notebook and answer these three questions honestly:
- What do I want more of in my life?
(Energy, peace, support, time for me…)
- What do I want less of?
(Guilt, chaos, resentment, constant urgency…)
- Whatโs one small step I can take this week to support that vision?
(A 10-minute walk, asking for help, saying no, journaling before bed…)
Rewriting my Story: Choosing HOPE over FEAR.
Rewriting our story doesnโt mean we pretend the hard parts didnโt happen. It means we acknowledge them, own them, and carry forward the wisdom they gave us. It means holding space for the truth of our pain and the possibility of healing. Itโs about believing that the next chapter doesnโt have to be shaped by fear, exhaustion, or survivalโbut by hope, choice, and clarity.
Another piece Iโm holding onto? Hope. This was my โWord for 2022โย I am bringing it back for 2025 as I feel hopeful for the future. Even when things felt impossible and I was at the bottom I still held out hope that things would get better.ย And they did. Right now I have been struggling more.ย I have been more anxious, I have slammed some doors and I have been moody.ย I know that things will improveโฆI just need to reset and keep working on things!
I am also holding on to hope for my kidsโ future. Hope that their lives with type 1 diabetes will give them strength.ย Hope for a cure. I carry that hope with the love of being a mama bear and will always do my best to protect them and to love them unconditionally. Our story with diabetes is part of usโbut it doesnโt define us and there is so much more to our lives.ย ย This is what rewriting my story looks like right now: choosing to be intentional in how I live, love, and leadโฆ even when the road is bumpy and imperfect.